This week, Benedict Cumberbatch fans everywhere were devastated to find out about the actor’s engagement to Sophie Hunter. Our first reaction, of course, was to do a little research to tell you just who Sophie Hunter is. Once the shock subsides, though, you’re left to deal with your feelings. You could try to soothe yourself with hot Benedict Cumberbatch pictures, of course, but we’re here to help you confront your grief. Refer to our 1-10 scale, and figure out where your feelings fall.